I don’t know how to make time for me
You used to have time.
Not loads. But some.
Time to breathe. Time to recover. Time to feel like yourself.
And now it’s like your hours belong to everyone else.
People always say, “You’ve got to make time for yourself.”
But where?
How?
Who picks up the pieces if you step away?
Even five minutes in the bathroom can feel shameful.
And trying to plan an hour away - that’s a logistical nightmare.
By the time you’ve arranged childcare, packed a bag, and made a plan… it doesn’t feel worth it. Because really, you want to sit down.
And here’s the quiet truth: maybe you don’t even know what “me time” is.
Maybe, before parenting, you weren’t out doing pottery or running marathons.
Maybe you were someone who rested.
And now? Rest feels impossible. Hobbies feel fake. You don’t know who you’re supposed to be.
These voice notes are for the parents who feel like their identity has been swallowed by caregiving.
Who wonders where they went—and how to get even a piece of themselves back.
Voice Notes
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Journaling prompts
What makes it hard to take time for myself right now?
Try naming the real barriers - guilt, logistics, fear of letting someone down. Let it be honest.
When I imagine time just for me… what do I actually want to do with it?
Not what you think you should do. Not what looks good on Instagram. What would genuinely feel good or fun, even for five minutes?
Before parenting, how did I feel most like myself?
Maybe it wasn’t hobbies or goals. Maybe it was lying on the sofa, or being alone. Start there.
What small thing brings me joy — not because it’s productive or useful, but just because it’s mine?
Think about the moments that feel light, silly, or peaceful. Joy doesn't have to be loud.
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